Starting a New Relationship
Whether we are in our 20's or 60's, beginning a new relationship is an adventure all of it's own.
We experience excitement, thrill, passion, and contentment in each new discovery we make about the relationship.
The beginning of a relationship is the perfect time to figure out if your new mate is a good match for you. Asking the right questions now (as opposed to later) can help set you up for a lifetime of success.
Here are my top tips of things to do in the first 6 months of a relationship.
1. Sort out any issues you're bringing forward from previous relationship.
Did your last partner end the relationship poorly? Are you still hung-up on your ex? Are you afraid of commitment? Addressing these issues early will help you to be in a more sound and secure place when starting with a new beau.
2. Ask questions: Lots of them.
Now this doesn't mean asking detailed questions on the first date, but in the first six months of a relationship you should have a good idea of:
- What are they looking for from the relationship?
- How do they feel about you?
- What is their family like? (and hopefully you've met them by now)
- What are their views on long-term relationships/marriages/children?
- What are their views on finances?
- What were their past relationships like?
3. Take a trip together.
If things go well in the relationship, it is likely that at some point you will look at living together - so it's a good idea to get a sense of what it's like to be around them for long periods of time. Do they have bad habits? Are they messy? Is their lifestyle severely different from yours? Knowing the answers to these will give you a vision into your future together.
4. Don't ignore any red flags.
If, during your Q & A, or even during your regular interaction, you notice something strange or uncomfortable, don't be afraid to stop right in your tracks and find out why it feels weird. Every gut reaction happens for a reason, and it's important to pay attention to these feelings. It's much better to address something now, than down the road when these issues become much bigger.
5. Above all else, have fun!
New relationships are a time of fun, adventure, and passion. If you feel like 'your best self' in a new relationship, it's probably a good fit.
