The Positive Things People Don't Tell You About Pregnancy - a Therapist's Perspective
Before I was a mom-to-be, I heard many tales about pregnancy from mothers - some clients, some friends and family, that scared me from the idea of pregnancy altogether!
Horror stories about the heartburn, nausea, stretch marks and gas, stories of agony re-telling how uncomfortable it was, and how I was just going to DIE at the pain of labour.
I'll admit, I was quite nervous entering into this journey knowing that I would have to face all these very difficult things.
My experience of being 7 months pregnant, has in fact, been very positive. I chalk that up to not just having a particularly pain-free experience, but also to my experiences as a psychotherapist in Toronto. Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy helps us to see how negative cognitions can only bring us down, increase our fear, and reduce our effectiveness.
The most amazing part of my experience so far is that it has been beyond blissful.
The relationship that is developed between a pregnant woman and her baby is just fascinating. Although she cannot see or hear the baby, a bond has already formed and protective instincts are in full force. She is learning to communicate with her baby by listening to the kicks, understanding the rhythm and duration of movements to distinguish kicks from hiccups, to shifting around, and getting a loud-and-clear message when the baby is uncomfortable with her body's position. (Imagine someone kicking you in the ribs every time you laid on your stomach?!)Yes, of course there has been nausea, heartburn, and all the wonderful other little joys of pregnancy, but it certainly hasn't been enough to taint my positive experience.
Just the thought of creating a miracle is enough to make you feel like a million dollars.
My hubby and I started Hypnobirthing classes this week, which have been very helpful so far. They provide you with books, materials and CDs to help the relaxation process during birth. I particularly enjoy the relaxation exercises and education that provide us with a form of support in the hospital experience.
My true belief in life is that most things are mind-over-matter.
Conquering fear and pain is usually about how you perceive fear and pain in the first place. I've learned from my clients that if you don't let it in, you're in for a much more positive experience. Good luck to all my fellow mums-to-be - I'll be seeing you soon!
