What's Your Attachment Style? Attachment Styles Quiz
No matter what you do, you can never seem to find the right relationship.
You try to date, but something always ends up feeling off.
Maybe the other person is too clingy. Maybe they don’t give you the reassurance you need.
When it comes down to it, you’re frustrated by dating and starting to feel hopeless.
Here at KMA Therapy, we’re relationship experts. We created this quiz to help you learn your attachment style and guide you to the best dating tips to help you thrive.
After reading this article, you’ll answer five questions to discover your attachment style and learn new ways to succeed in your relationships.
Attachment Styles Quiz
This five-question attachment styles quiz will give you some insight into what your attachment style is and let you know which dating tips can work best for you.
Want to take a longer quiz with more in-depth questions? Explore our interactive Attachment Styles Quiz.
Question 1: How do you feel at the start of a new relationship?
A) I go all in right away. I’m a big believer in love at first sight, and my friends sometimes make fun of me for how fast I fall.
B) The start of a new relationship is fun. I actually prefer “situationships” over anything too serious.
C) The start of a new relationship is exciting! I find it fun to learn more about new people and see what we have in common. If we don’t end up being a good fit, I know it’s nothing personal.
Question 2: How do you feel when your partner is away from you?
A) Honestly, I hate it. It can feel physically painful to be apart and I count down the minutes until they get back.
B) It’s a relief to get some space to myself.
C) I miss my partner when they’re away, but I feel excited to see them when they’re back. I like to have time to work on my own projects and spend time with friends.
Question 3: To me, being single is…
A) Awful. It’s hard to feel like I’m not good enough to be in a relationship.
B) Better. I like getting to know new people, but in the end, it always seems like the honeymoon phase is the best part of a relationship.
C) Fun! I enjoy meeting new people and spending time with my friends, and the possibility of meeting a new partner is exciting.
Question 4: I want a partner who is…
A) Comforting. I like to know my partner is there for me and having someone who is willing to reassure me means a lot.
B) Independent. I want a partner who adds to my life without expecting me to compromise my alone time.
C) A teammate. I want a partner who is willing to share their life with me in the same way I’m willing to share my life with them.
Question 5: When I think about sharing my emotions and feelings with others, I feel:
A) Nervous. I’m not sure how they’ll react, and I don’t want them to think less of me.
B) Uncomfortable. I know how to handle my own emotions, and I don’t trust someone else to understand me.
C) Okay. Some conversations are harder than others, but I generally feel good about sharing my thoughts and feelings with the people I care about.
Want more questions for more detailed results? Take our full Attachment Styles Quiz.
Attachment Styles Quiz Results
Add up how many of each letter you got, and see which letter was the most common for you.
Mostly A: You likely have an anxious attachment style
When you have an anxious attachment style, you might:
- Put a lot of effort into relationships and prioritize others
- Have a strong fear that your partner will abandon or leave you
- Get upset at the thought of being alone or separated from loved ones
You're great at making sure the people around you get what you need - but sometimes this comes at your own expense.
Remember - there's no good or bad attachment style to have. But learning to lean into secure attachment traits can help you feel better in your relationships.
To learn more about dating with an anxious attachment style, read How to Date with an Anxious Attachment Style.
Mostly B) You likely have an avoidant attachment style
When you have an avoidant attachment style, you might:
- Have high self-esteem and confidence around others
- Feel uncomfortable with strong displays of intimacy
- Have trouble getting in touch with your emotions and prefer to hide them
You're confident and self-assured, but it can be hard for you to trust and depend on others.
Remember - there's no good or bad attachment style to have. But learning to lean into secure attachment traits can help you feel better in your relationships.
To learn more about dating with an avoidant attachment style, read How to Date with an Avoidant Attachment Style.
Mostly C) You likely have a secure attachment style
When you have a secure attachment style, you probably:
- Feel confident in building connections with other people
- Find a balance between independence and trusting others
- Have a positive outlook on yourself, others, and your childhood
You like to share your life with others and you enjoy the balance of healthy relationships.
To learn more about communicating your relationship needs to your partner, read How Does Your Attachment Style Affect Your Relationships?
Next Steps for Successful Relationships
After reading this article, you know what your attachment style is and dating tips to help you succeed in relationships.
Here at KMA Therapy, we’re for you whenever you’re ready to take the next step.
You might want to meet with a relationship therapist if:
- You’re struggling with trust issues
- You have an anxious or avoidant attachment style
- You have unresolved feelings about past relationships
- You’re struggling to maintain healthy friendships or romantic relationships
- You have trouble communicating your needs and boundaries to other people
Register for your appointment today or read Can Couples Counselling Help Me? to learn more.
